与愁苦的朋友同行
By Translator: Hongqing Tao
In past years everyone will more or less have had sad experiences, such as relatives and friends have been changes, business failure, work stopped, marriage hit the rocks, love problems, or do not go well, and so academic and wet Qifeng experience. Although these are experiences that everyone can identify with, but everyone’s grief sad reason, the degree of harm, as well as how to deal with this problem is vary. Even faced with the same type of injury, everyone could have her own unique strain of positive or negative experiences. So, when someone suffered a sad things happen, how can we help her to face the sad fact that she can be strong through this period of hard times? □□
Panic and refused to accept the first reaction is often encountered
When things happen, ordinary people first reaction is panic and resist, or unable to accept the fact that things happen. Such a reaction is human nature, and therefore generally gave the parties a short buffer time, so she can from what happened after, began to have a chance to ponder this one happening in her daily life and in the subsequent years the impact. At the same time, this is the best time to let your friends know you and her friends are in this □, willing to help and support her through this difficult period sad day. Quietly listening to pour her, hugged her, even with her to cry tears, prayed for her, and so on, will be very able to help and comfort her actions. □□□
Do not think you have to say some words of consolation and others
In fact, the first time you are with her, it is already silence speaks, give her unlimited comfort and strength.
After the panic stage too, and a lot of people will start feeling more intense reflection .
This is also a very important step and process, let her go to alleviate the pain of the heart with her own methods. For example, let her have a chance to speak their say, to pour out her feelings terribly upset, even scream, or use other ways to make yourself a little better. So, let your friends according to what she meant to vent her emotions. Usually this will be some action to help her through this a sad day.
□ There are some that you can to help your friends method
A person is going through a sad day, and often there will be some anger, pessimism, unfortunate things happen that helpless feeling a sense of loss. In a few special cases, there will be some people might have so get sense of relief. If the parties have had an unpleasant experience, one might think there is a feeling secretly Koki, knowing that she will not come back hurt. In any case, we need to know in this case, the fact that often happens is that feeling and different degrees of reaction people at different times and circumstances, there will be different. So, when we learned that people have different feelings in different situations, we do not rigidly to assume there will be a party feeling. What we need to do is let our friends know that she can pour out to you enjoy her true feelings.
There are some very practical tips for you can encounter when someone sad and difficult, get help from you:
- Ask your friends to provide some practical support, such as help her look after the children, clean up the housework, grocery shopping, preparing meals, providing transportation
- Some other practical help within your circle of competence can be done
- Let your friends to make some in her imagination you can do to help
- If she do not want to disturb others, try to let you take her to do some contact or make a few calls for help
Going to accept the grief experience is an experience no right or wrong.
So you want to party like being interrogated in the absence of, or someone claiming to be under pressure to justice for good, have the opportunity to try to pour out of her tragedy. With a sincere way to ask your friends have what it takes to help your friend in distress when she is willing to start mouth to your request. From going through the suffering of a friend’s point of view, let her know that someone in this world care about her willingness to listen to her complain, extend the hand of friendship to her as long as she can open at any time to help her, so she could leave early sorrow emotions, be comforted, began returning to normal life.
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